Duffy’s Lucky Escape – Guest Post and Giveaway

Duffy the Sea Turtle is an engaging story of the relationship between humans and wildlife and the dangers turtles face in their own natural habitats due to ocean plastic. Stunning artwork captures the imagination of young readers and brings to life a very real threat to our oceans.

I love to have guest blogs here and I find it’s such a great way to share stories, learn something new and to share our own passions. My guest blogger today is Ellie Jackson who has recently returned to the UK after having lived abroad for many years and being involved in conservation work. Ellie  has written the wonderful tale of Duffy the Sea Turtle .

Ellie Jackson and illustrator Liz Oldmeadow, are two mums with 5 children between them who met at mother’s group when their sons were babies.  A chance discussion over coffee led the mums to discover their mutual talents and so began a partnership that after many months of juggling children and other commitments has finally led to Duffy’s message being ready to be shared. Here’s more about her story.

I never thought about becoming an author, it was a process that I fell into by reason of circumstance and luck. An amazing opportunity to live for a year on a tropical island in the Great Barrier Reef was not something that I ever thought would lead to a new direction for me – we moved there as a family for beaches and adventure! The most beautiful beaches, framed by palm trees and sunsets, just how you would imagine an island paradise to be.

Duffy's Lucky Escape - Guest Post and GiveawayWe didn’t wear shoes for a year, we had our own pool, and a great circle of friends. My three children were all under school age and it was the perfect chance for us as a family to experience a more laid back approach to life and give our kids real freedom. My husband works from home and this allowed us the opportunity to try something different before we had to start real life when our eldest started school.

We heard about a turtle release happening on one of the beaches – I have to say I didn’t realise what a big deal this event was going to be – the whole island turned out plus TV cameras and journalists. When it was time for the turtle to be put back into the water, we formed two lines into the sea and the turtle was released on the beach and immediately headed for the sea and was gone in a matter of seconds.

It was a surprisingly emotional experience to see this turtle who had spent a year in the aquarium getting fit and healthy again, returning to her ocean home. After the turtle release, we visited the Turtle Hospital on the mainland and heard all the different reasons as to why turtles need our help – one of which is where they suffer from eating too much plastic. As soon as my young children had made the link between plastic on the beach and turtles, every time we went to the beach they were running around picking up rubbish saying “Mummy, I’m saving a turtle!”. Well that was it for me, I was amazed at how such a simple true story could motivate and encourage such enthusiasm for picking up rubbish!

Duffy's Lucky Escape - Guest Post and Giveaway

Duffy’s Lucky Escape is a beautifully illustrated book teaching children about the dangers of ocean plastics without overwhelming them. The powerful message is delivered in a fun and friendly way and ends by inspiring children to make changes to their own and their families lives. A perfect present for Christmas or gift to your child’s school, please visit duffytheseaturtle.com to order your copy for just £7.99 with a percentage of all profits going to UK national marine charities.

You can follow us on social media for latest updates and competitions as well as information about my new book due out before Christmas.

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Thank you so much Ellie for joining us today and telling us about the events leading you to write your book.

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Bumper Giveaways Christmas Gift Guide – Part 3

Bumper Giveaways Christmas Gift Guide – Part 3

Hello there and here I am with even more great christmas ideas and also another fab giveaway. This post is looking at stocking fillers and quirky ideas that you may not of seen before. It’s great to see a real look of surprise on peoples faces when you give them something, I think you’ll find these fit the bill!

You can also see my Bumper Gift Guide Part 1 and Bumper Gift Guide Part 2 where there are a more ideas and giveaways.

Splat

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SPLAT ethically and scientifically, develops and manufactures professional oral care solutions for the whole family.

I bet you haven’t see anything like this before, it’s a Gold Toothpaste which is fluoride free. Splat Special Gold Toothpaste consists of Diamond Powder and Gold particles, developed specially to create a beautiful smile and maintain a healthy mouth. £16.95 This is the sort of present for a princess with a liking for the luxurious things in life! How cool!

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Bumper Giveaways Christmas Gift Guide – Part 3

This Blackwood Charcoal Toothpaste contains a cutting-edge combination of active ingredients that remove plaque formations and prevent them from re-occurring. Charcoal, the ingredient that gives Blackwood its black colour, whitens, absorbs smells and removes stains to leave teeth feeling fresh and clean. Juniper extract promotes gum health. The toothpaste significantly and safely whitens teeth, fights plaque buildup and maintains long-lasting fresh breath. £7.95

 

Magic Oral Care Magic Oral Care Foam for oral care on the go. Perfect for your child’s school bag or lunch box after those snacks, lunches and drinks, as it protects from tooth decay for when your little one is out and about. Doesn’t have a mint flavour as some kids don’t like it. £5.95Bumper Giveaways Christmas Gift Guide – Part 3

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Oral Care Foam – the adult version of the foam for busy people on the move. This one has a mint flavour and is to be used after food and drinks, convenient for travelling (50ml bottle) and especially loved by people who wear braces. Helps to protect against tooth decay and keeps your breath fresh. £5.95

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You can win a bundle of 1 of each of the toothpastes featured here today. This is a great prize and I wish you the best of luck.

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Galleoneers

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Discover a cuisine each month with Galleoneers‘ exciting recipes from around the world. Learn about geography and explore new cultures with arts & crafts, fun and educational activities related to the month’s cuisine.

The recipe box comes with a free membership to the Galleoneers Cooking Club. That means subscribers receive by email a free eBook.

I have got a 3-month recipe box subscription box in the giveaway today from Galleoneers, how good is that?! Such a super prize and a great introduction to the range. See lower down for the giveaway.

The Recipe Box contains the following:

1. One 24-page Fully-illustrated Recipe and Activity Book that includes

• 3 child-friendly recipes for a full-course meal (Note: alternative substitutes for those with dietary restrictions are provided through the Galleoneers Cooking Club)

• Every recipe step is classified by age and cooking skills level

• Culinary lessons and kitchen learning aids for kids

• Cultural information, infographics and country trivia related to the month’s culinary theme

• Arts and crafts activities related to the month’s culinary theme

• Educational activities related to the month’s culinary theme

2. Kitchen tools and gadgets for your child to keep

3. Some of the food ingredients to be used in the recipe

4. Grocery shopping list (also emailed in advance)

5. Welcome letter to grown-ups

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I love the idea of this gift as it’s such a creative present to give. So many different skills are used which will keep our younger ones entertained. You do have to carry out a fair bit of it with them but that too is great as its a bonding experience without any of the pressure of getting anything ready. Most of this is taken care of by Galleoneers!

Here we go for the giveaway of a 3-month recipe box subscription despatched by Galleoneers

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TowelUP

 

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TowelUp© is the brainchild of  Hannah who was fed up of her towel falling down every time she walked from the shower to the wardrobe, simple as that!  It has taken much research, time and effort to create what she hopes is a solution to that problem for men, women and children alike.

Bumper Giveaways Christmas Gift Guide – Part 3

Bumper Giveaways Christmas Gift Guide – Part 3Have you ever been caught short with your towel falling down? I never used to worry about this when I was young free and single but as I’ve grown up and either shared houses or been travelling it became a bit of a thing that I didn’t want to be worrying about. Yes, you can wrap it round you and tuck it in but there is always that risk of it falling!  TowelUp© will keep your towel securely in place for as long as you need it to and costs just £3.99 for one or £6.99 + P&P.  It simply slides over where you wrap your towel around you body and hey presto you are ready to move around! These are great for stocking fillers and they are a really different present to give.

Sweet Hearts

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Lice are a hazard of the children going back to school in my experience so it’s good to see products that can help out with that. Also when my son was alot smaller he had longer hair which goes beautifully and curly the longer it gets. With the 2 in 1 – Detangler & Head Lice Defence Spray you can use it for detangling and styling. If your child does then come into contact with an infested head, the strong head lice repellent will deter them from even thinking about spreading. The detangler and head lice spray has Fragonia, Neem and Tea Tree oil which puts of the bugs but doesn’t smell horrid like some can.

The SweetHearts Hair Detangler Spray has been created by Beth Belshaw alongside Denise McGowan of Evanji to make a detangler that is soft enough to be used daily, yet leave hair feeling light and shiny. It is made from ethically sourced ingredients and is free from synthetic chemicals & parabens. Sweet hearts hair design have a strict no animal testing policy so you can rest assured when you are buying them that this has been upheld.

 

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I would love to know which ones have really grabbed your attention. Have you seen any of these products before?


I have been given the products to review for you here today. Thanks to each of the brands and I am pleased with each of them. Delivery was good and all arrived in tip top condition!

Pre Empty Nest Syndrome? Is this what I have?

Not quite a teenager and not a little boy content with running up to his mummy and back. My little boy is growing up and I’m finding it hard.

 

When I saw my eldest son ‘M’ for the first time, it took my breath away. The moment is always with me and I look back and talk about it whenever I can….here with you, with the kids and with my friends. The feeling was no different with my second boy ‘G’. I’ve always had a strong drive to keep both of my boys safe and a bit wrapped up in cotton wool. Those that know me would nod along now and hopefully smile in recognition as I’m probably the most over protective of the lot. I’ve heard of empty nest syndrome but never pre empty nest syndrome….my babies are still at home, just growing up.

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‘M’ aged 4….he’s 11 now. Oh how time has flown.

As my eldest reaches towards 12 I am having a few moments when I struggle with him taking that next step towards teenagehood and being more independent. I think maybe it’s because it’s the start of another school year and so many different questions….and behaviours have begun to show.

The reluctance by him to spend as much time with me has been something to get used to. Having him want to spend time alone, chatting with his friends without wanting me around is something new.  I love it so much, that he’s growing up and he has lovely friends who all get on and laugh at their own in-jokes. However, I’m now looking on at this and not instigating it. It’s not created by me – for him…..I’m not included as much, wow, when did this happen? I’m starting not to be the only big thing in his world. It’s a bit of a shock!

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He looks alot different now but I couldn’t resist these of when he was smaller.

The full on unashamed spontaneous hugs have also started to fizzle out, when they do come it’s magical and I crush him in my embrace. He does that ‘ok mum’ and giggles, knowing that I will undoubtedly now ruffle his hair which he has just preened and styled to an inch of its life.

My rational side knows that I am proud of what we have achieved. This is what I have been preparing him for so why does it give me a lump in my throat even writing about it?

I know that being a parent is to nurture and care for our young and I realise that they are not to be owned by us. We have to prepare them and set them on their own unique path. I hadn’t realised until now that the notion of this would be so hard, I had been in the caring role for so long.

It’s all such a learning curve being a parent. I’m always amazed at the different emotions it brings.

Am I alone or is this normal or even normal-ish? Do you ever get these feelings?

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5 Tips on Buying a Family Car

If you are thinking of what you need when buying your family car. Have a look at my top tips which I found have been really useful to us.

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The cars that I have bought over the years have changed so much. Not only that but the types of cars that are available now are so much smarter than when I first started driving.

I remember the old mini that I first passed my test in, it was a little beauty but rather temperamental. When it was cold I would have to bump start it down a hill behind my flat just to get it started! I didn’t think too much of it at the time, it was just what I needed to do to get it going. It’s a different story now though, so many more things to think of. Mainly that I am a mum now and I have to take different things into account.

So, it’s a good way to pass on some tips that I have learnt over these past few years. Here I have my..

5 Tips on Buying a Family Car

1. Safety, this has to be the number one thing for me now. Since having children the whole priority on what I need from a car has changed. Cars.com is great because it’s packed full of information about different cars, makes and models. Plus, it has other helpful information as well, including car seat safety check tips and more!

2. How many people are going to regularly travel in the car. We now have a car that normally seats 5 but has 2 emergency seats that turns it into a 7 seater when needed. It’s great to have that flexibility to do that without having the size that a full 7 seater needs all of the time.

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How many seats do you need?

3. How long to you plan to keep the car? Our discussions are around the money we pay versus how long we plan on keeping it. If your children are younger and you need the space for longer then you need a car that has a good reputaion for lasting and holding it’s value.

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4. Space around the car. By this I mean roof rack and bike rack. See what added space the car can offer. Last year we put a bike rack on that holds up to 3 bikes comfortably. We also have the option of a top box if needed. This all makes a big difference when going on day trips and holidays. It’s better to have the inside of the car clutter free for us.

5. My last tip might seem a bit more frivolous but don’t be fooled. I’m talking about interiors! Bright white leather does look stunning and I’m sure that the latest glossy mags show it off to its glorious best. Now come back down to earth and you will realise that a family car is going to get grubby hand and footprints in every conceivable place. Think long and hard about this often overlooked accessory on a family car. Choose wisely!

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Let’s start promoting!

When I was preparing for my recent trip to London to go to Brit Mums Live 17 it suddenly struck me that I didn’t have any publicity material.

I started seeing my fellow bloggers showing their bright spangly business cards on their tweets. People were really prepared and I felt a bit left behind in the promotion stakes. So I thought, let’s start promoting!

I have had it in the back of my mind for a while now that I would like to start having some material or products with my logo on it. I’d love to see my brand displayed on clothes or bags, it would be so cool. When I first designed my logo I was just beginning and it seems like a long time ago.

So I got to it and thought about what I’d like. First up was some business cards. I designed these on my computer and chose the wording with the aim in my head that it was a welcome card to come see my blog.

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My home made business blog cards!

Does it work? I’m not sure but I do know that the understated look works for me. I still won’t have my picture on it but it still represents me in a way that I’m happy with.

I also used Bags of Love who make beautiful personalised gifts with photos of your own designs. They have just about everything you could want to have your photo printed on from personalised suitcases to hot water bottles. Their photo gifts are very impressive.

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Everything is handmade in the UK, built to last and sent out nice and quickly. If you are impatient like me then it’s great!

The bag is perfect for me, it’s very stylish and has loads of room for all kinds of shopping or work material I may have.

It’s also got little pockets on the inside for money and things I need to get to in a hurry! I spend far too long scrabbling around in the bottom of my bags for my car keys so this is a real plus for me.

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I chose pale blue on the sides to compliment my blog logo

So I think I’m just about set for the moment. I like the idea of having some really nice looking journal, so I think that will be my next project.

Can you think of anything else that I could use as promotional pieces?

What’s the quirkiest thing you’ve seen?

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I was gifted the bag for the purpose of reviewing the service. The cards I made myself! It all came together at the right time!

The Best Butternut Squash Recipe

I like to try all the different vegetables on offer and this week I had an organic box delivery which had a great Butternut Squash nestled inside.

I wanted to make the most of what I could do with it so I have devised the best butternut squash supper recipe I can imagine which is great for all the family.

Luckily my boys and OH love their food and will try all the different dishes that I come up with. My eldest son loves sweet potatoes and I think that the butternut squash looks very similar. They have had it before but not like this, being made the star of the show!

The Best Butternut Squash Recipe
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The Best Roasted Butternut Squash Recipe
The Best Butternut Squash Recipe
Prep Time
10 mins
Cook Time
40 mins
Total Time
50 mins
 

The Best Butternut Squash Recipe. Great for all the family to enjoy.

Course: Main Course
Servings: 6 people
Author: mainy - myrealfairy
Ingredients
  • 1 Butternut Squash
  • 1 tbsp Olive Oil
  • Salt and Pepper To personal taste
  • 200 g Quinoa
  • 50 g Parmesan Cheese
Instructions
  1. Slice the Butternut Squash into 4 or 6 slices depending on how large it is.

    Place on a baking tray with lining paper

    Sprinkle on the olive oil

    Add salt and pepper to taste


    The Best Roasted Butternut Squash Recipe
  2. Roast in the over for 40 minutes

  3. Cook the Quinoa for the required time depending on pre cooked or part cooked.

  4. Take the Butternut Squash out of the oven and immediately grate over the parmesan cheese. 

  5. Serve straight away with the cooked Quinoa.

    The Best Roasted Butternut Squash Recipe
Recipe Notes

Tastes great with shredded cabbage!

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I’d love to know that you think of this supper dish and if you are a fan of butternut squash.

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If you like easy, delicious recipes then I think you will love my Easy Focaccia Bread. Try these two together and wow your friends and family.

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Club Hub UK – App Review

There’s a great new app on the scene! Club Hub UK. This has really caught my attention! I heard recently from Tessa Robinson, the creator who quite rightly, had worked really hard around the launch date with getting the news of her app out there to let us all know that we could make use of it.

The app is designed to make finding activities easier…Ok that’s good enough for me already!:)

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But let me tell you more….

The app is designed to locate children’s clubs and activities around the U.K. It caters for children from newborns up to 18 years old.

Tessas background is in acting and she started a children’s musical theatre group. She started teaching children after school, and enjoyed sharing her knowledge in everything she could in terms of acting, singing and dancing.

During this time her idea was forming which has now become ‘Club Hub UK’. Tessa thought that there should be a way that she could promote her after school club to all the parents in her local area. She then thought about creating an app where people could locate all the children’s clubs in their area too – a simple app where parents could input their child’s age and interests, and the search results would list local clubs and their details.

Club Hub UK - App Review

Tessa really pushed her idea forward and came second with Club Hub UK in the #InSport competition with Ideas Britain. An app where people are able to show their ideas to the world. That too is very much worth checking out if you need coaches to assist in your app ideas.

Ella Harding is the graphic designer and I really love the drawings she has created for the site.

The app and website is free and listings are free too! You couldn’t want more as a resource. If you are looking for a club to promote your activity, check out the club owner section.

I think this is an app that is well worth keeping an eye out for, it could be one of those that you start seeing everywhere and it comes to be a go-to app at the weekend! Well done Tessa!

Here are all the contact details below:

Website: www.clubhubuk.co.uk

Twitter: @clubhubuk 

Facebook: Club Hub UK

What do you think, is this an app that you’d think of downloading? You can download on the App Store here or Google Play here

I am one of the supporters for this app because I really believe in the great idea and the hard work behind it.

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A One Off Summer Linky #mainylovessummer

Here we are again with one of my special blog post linky parties! #mainylovessummer Thank you so much for joining me. How is your summer going so far? Hectic with plenty going on I suspect.

I loved holding the previous one off specials for Christmas and Easter so much that I couldn’t let summer go by without having a blog get together.

As usual there is no badge that you have to paste anywhere. What I do ask though is that where you have saved time (and space:) by not having that little task, is that you definitely do follow the guidance below.

The linky is open from 7am on Friday 11th August and closes at 7am Wednesday 16th. You then have until the Friday to complete your comments.

It’s all about sharing, reading and enjoying each others writing. Feel free to add up to 3 of any type of blogging post old or new.

Reviews, giveaways, recipes, parenting, lifestyle, poetry all manner of posts are welcome here.

Just let common sense prevail and refrain from anything outrageously offensive:)

My favourite forum is twitter so please also tweet as many posts as possible using the hash tag #mainylovessummer @myrealfairy and I will tweet away for days and days both your posts and all those you tweet from the link up.

Let’s make this a real summer sizzler and get everyone reading and talking about your posts.

Suggested guidance for participating:
  • I’d love it if you commented on the host post and at least one more for every post you link up.
  • Tweet using the hashtag #mainylovessummer @myrealfairy when you link up and you’re away!
  • Tweet, pin, stumble and share using all the wonderful ways you wish and let the blogger know when you comment how you have shared their post.
  • Use the hashtag #mainylovessummer when you comment please.
  • Enjoy and read something you wouldn’t normally click on.
  • Have fun!

 

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Nominate Me! Now that’s a call to action!

OK what I actually meant was could you Please nominate me, I didn’t want to come across as pushy:)

The Brilliance in Blogging Awards – BiB’s are open for nominations – Yippie! This year I have decided to take a deep breath and go for it! I am being brave and asking you to nominate me please if you like my blog and the type of things I cover. I love this crazy world of blogging and it would mean so much to receive some feedback in the way of nominations. So here is my unashamed post asking you to nominate.

 

All of the links here will take you to the page you can nominate from and there are details at the end of the post that you will need to nominate me. It’s real easy and takes about 2 minutes

BritMums highlights the best of parent lifestyle blogging in our Brilliance in Blogging Awards – the BiBs. It recognises the most creative, inventive and compelling blogging of the year!

If you love my blog I would be so so happy if you would nominate me for the………

Fresh Voice

which is an award celebrates the newbies in the blogging world. The blogger’s actual age doesn’t figure; rather it’s their fresh approach to blogging and social media – with content, pictures, video and voice that makes the rest of us take notice. Blog should be less than 18 months old, or recently relaunched.

or

Family & Lifestyle

These blogs might share the laughter and tears of bringing up kids, inspire us to live better, or expose the (ahem) challenges of being a parent. They are frank, often beautiful to look at it, and celebrate family life and the parenting lifestyle.

Nominations close on the 7th June so if you fancy nominating then pop over before then:)

Details you will need are…….

Blog Name: myrealfairy.com

Blog URL: http://www.myrealfairy.com

Email: fairyqueen@myrealfairy.com

Twitter: @myrealfairy

You can choose your favourite post from the blog, some of mine are:

Is social media and technology affecting your family?
Lets kick ‘passive aggressive’ into touch….
How we got involved with the Great British Spring Clean #GBSpringclean

 

Thank you so much if you do nominate me or if you vote for other bloggers as it’s so great to be part of these awards.

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Lets kick ‘passive aggressive’ into touch….

 

The Passive Aggressive story ….. There’s someone I vaguely know who has been getting me really frustrated recently with, well just the way she is! She comes across as ok, a bit wet if I’m honest but ok. The thing is she just doesn’t perform very well. . She will arrive late, not really pull her weight and giggles alot. It drives me mad! I get so frustrated with her and I spend ages trying to figure out just what it is that makes her tick. When I try and get something a bit more firm out of her she gives airy fairy answers  just floats away and continues to under-perform. I’m often left fuming and feeling deflated.

I’ve been searching for an explanation and looking at the different management techniques I should employ with her when I started reading more on human behaviours. There are some great studies out there and I’ve realised that she is demonstrating some classic ‘passive aggressive’ behaviour traits.

Passive aggressive behaviour is a deliberate but covert way of expressing anger. It is designed to exert some form of revenge or point scoring on someone for perceived wrongdoing. In some cases people can get pleasure from this aswell as getting the initial anger out of them.

Passive aggressiveness can display itself in various ways, some of these are;

Being consistently late for appointments or meet ups.

Not doing well at something in order for their failures to reflect negatively not on them but on their ‘friends’ or supervisors.

Appearing to be accommodating to your requests but not actually doing anything that you ask of them. Nodding in all the right places but not making any push to do a thing.

The thing is about these types of behaviours is that the person will generally deny any knowledge of wrongdoing and be mock offended by any kind of finger pointing in their direction. If you’re not careful you can come off looking pretty bad in any direct confrontation so be careful!

 

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I’ve often wondered what this really means and I was having a discussion recently where I realised that this form of bullying or control mechanism over others is more widely used than you might think.

 

It could be that we feel a negative thought and instead of coming right out and saying it in a constructive or direct way, we instead say something which will subtly get our point across without leading to conflict…or at least we hope. The thing is, this type of behaviour can leave the person we are directing it to hurt and without a course of action. It can be useful to the giver but to the person receiving it it can bring them down which it is designed to do, usually with more questions in their mind than a direct comment.

Whether in the workplace, social situations or in the home, I think there are many instances that go by that we pass off as ‘normal’ when we are subjected to comments or actions designed to belittle us. We must try to be aware of our own actions and stay true to our values. Being frustrated at another persons personality will not be sufficient to change it.

Have you come across any of these traits or instances? How did it make you feel and did you manage to sort anything out?

 

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